How to teach children character traits

51vkrH+D5uL._SX348_BO1,204,203,200_ (1)Public school in America does a good job at teaching the basics: reading, writing, math, science, and other subjects.

Public schools are known to be a place where kids go to “socialize” with their friends.

However, public school typically don’t offer a course on friendship and interpersonal skills.

Kids with pro social character traits are generally more likeable. The kids poor social character traits are federally less likeable and more often rejected. They suffer more mental health problems too.

My book, Building Character with Sam and Izzy aims to bring social skills and character development to the classroom. The book has a mission to help kids to make more friends and to feel happier (most of the time). Being happy 100% of the time isn’t realistic.

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My sister’s wild animals.

The book uses pictures of dogs (and some cats) to teach children how to make friends by improving their character traits. The book started when my sister’s two dogs Izzy (a Chihuahua) and Sam (an English Bulldog) became friends. What an unlikely friendship. I figured if these two (very different dogs) can be friends then any two kids could become friends too.

In fact, even the dog (and cat) can be friends. See the picture of my sister’s dog Sugar and the cat. I can’t recall that cat’s name.

My book isn’t therapy, but it uses a lot of recreational therapy interventions.

  • Bibliotherapy is a type of therapy based on reading books. My book could be used in recreational therapy.
  • Animal therapy is uses animals in the facilitation of needs. My book uses pictures of friendly animals
  • Activities are part of recreational therapy. My book includes access to download an instructor’s workbook with activity ideas: like making a compromise to select a game, volunteering and helping; being a team-member; and a good sport.

Here is the summary of the book:

Danny Pettry is a Recreational Therapist who specializes in working with children (ages 7 to 12) who have mental and behavioral health needs.
Now he has put together an astonishing children’s book to help ALL children have better social health and wellness.
Danny Pettry’s book teaches character lessons to children using colorful pictures of animals. This book is a valuable tool for teachers, group leaders, therapists and parents alike.
This book covers social skills and character values like:
Accepting others
Compromising
Having good sportsmanship
Being respectful, generous, helpful, empathetic, and more.
This book helps children learn how to make friends and get along with others.
You’d like for your child or a child you know to develop and improve these skills, wouldn’t you?
You like pictures of cute animals don’t you?
All right then.
Just read the book to your child.

 

I’ve been featured in the media a few times with this book.

  • I did an interview for National Public Radio (but they’ve taken down the recording – I guess because it has been so many years).
  • Parenting Magazine featured the book
  • Several newspapers

Award-Winning:

Seal of Approval Winner by The National Parenting Center
Testers were delighted to discover this storybook that teaches children important lessons about tolerance, empathy, sharing, compassion and much more. Pettry uses adorable dogs and puppies to illustrate these good character traits. Parents noted how well the book was written. The style easily connected with children and was fun for parents to read. What many parents told us was that this book sparked conversations about various behaviors including how humans and dogs share many similarities when it comes to caring for each other.

5-Star Rating from Reader’s Favorites

5-Star Rating from Reviewers on Amazon!

Get the book here:

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I wasn’t the smartest kid in my class. I didn’t have a 4.0 in public school or undergraduate school. I did finally get a 4.0 in graduate school. I had an A in almost every course. I did get a B in Ethics. I know – that doesn’t sound good, does it?

However, I did win the class of 1992 Good Citizenship Award at my Elementary School.

I’d argue that a child’s social health (interpersonal skills) and ability to deal with emotions (affect regulation skills) might be more of an indicate of success in life compared to just having high grade point average.

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Super Heroes (and Heroines) Inspire People to be their Best.

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Blockbuster movies taken place every summer. These movies are released. Some of them are great. Some are flops. Some of them become legendary movies that develop a cult-like following.

 

Movies are an activity that people enjoy during the summer. People watch them on holidays, on vacations, or just because it is a fun thing to do on the weekend for entertainment.

 

Spiderman was released this weekend. It is  the third reboot of Spiderman. These movies are based on the comic book character created by Stan Lee. (Please note Stan Lee has a cameo) in this movie, as he does in most Marvel movies based on his characters. Keep your eyes open for him.

 

I am a comic book fan. (Also known as a geek). I won’t apologize for being true and authentic.

 

Entertaining movies inspire us. Spiderman inspired me. I wanted to share my feelings about the movie without giving away any secrets of the plot. I felt amazed (The Amazing Spiderman). I felt inspired by good over evil. I don’t like to say “fighting” because that assumes their is an enemy. I like the concept of good encouraging more good in the world and I think this movie gives that. The so-called bad-guy who I refer to as (Bat Man because he is played by Michael Keaton) makes a change in this movie.

 

Good and evil are often the plot lines of movies. There is the hero and there is the villain. Often the hero wins because he (or she) has many positive character traits. It isn’t about having a suit with special powers. It isn’t about having a hero name. It isn’t even about having special abilities. It is more than that. True heroism comes from character traits like being authentic, brave, courageous, determined, persistent, and focused on doing good.

 

Money is power in our [Real-Life] universe. Many people in Hollywood make a lot of money from movies: actors, directors, filmmakers, etc. Money only maximizes the true self. Jim Cary’s “The Mask” is a good example. The mask gives Jim Carey’s character special abilities (which is funny). However, when a villain puts it on the mask maximizes the evil. In example: if you’re already evil and you get a lot of money – you’ll take it to do more of what you already are.

 

Learning and loving are two of my values in life. These are my own authentic beliefs on what is really important in life. I do them now. Spiderman was deeply aligned with doing-good-nature and philosophy.  Naturally, it inspired me to be a real-life superhero. There is a Bat Man (motivational speaker) based out of my town: Huntington, West Virginia. he shares with kids and teens (and even adults) that anybody can be bat man by doing good.

 

I want to do good  in several areas of my life. Ways to do it in real life include: @ work (doing the best); @ home (helping the family); @ community (helping others, volunteering); and in community (letting a person driving car go in front of me or get the parking space); and so much more.

 

My July and August summer charity project (at work) is going to be based on books. Reading is another hobby of mine. I am going to collect books for the children and adolescents are our residential treatment facility. Yes, some of these books will be based on blockbuster Heros, like Spiderman and other (Heroines too). Yes – these books will give kids a healthy hobby for the summer.

My goal: Collect at least (child appropriate books) before midnight on August 31st for our residential treatment programs libraries.

 

My challenge to you. What kind of a good-deed are you going to do this summer?

Set a deadline. By midnight August 31st.

Be a real life super hero. Do something good. Start today. Don’t wait to be a hero when you have money or time or power. Like Nike, “do it” now.

Contest winner – copy of Danny Pettry’s book!

Elyse J., Bloomington, MN had won a copy of my children’s book, Building Character with Sam, Izzy, and Many Other Dogs: 15 Tips to Help Children Build Character. She had attended my training session at ATRA! I always like to give away door-prizes at my sessions

The book has been featured in the media and in publications several times, including:

  • Tampa Bay Parenting Magazine (Tampa Bay, FL).
  • The Parthenon – Student newspaper at Marshall University (Huntington, W.Va).
  • The Register-Herald Newspaper (Beckley, W.Va.)
  • Indiana University Alumni Magazine (no article – but posted picture of book online). (Bloomington, IN) in 2009 or 2010
  • West Virginia Public Radio Interview in Jan. 2011

The book has a 5-star rating from amazon.com reviewers!

Award:

Seal of Approval Winner by The National Parenting Center
Testers were delighted to discover this storybook that teaches children important lessons about tolerance, empathy, sharing, compassion and much more. Pettry uses adorable dogs and puppies to illustrate these good character traits. Parents noted how well the book was written. The style easily connected with children and was fun for parents to read. What many parents told us was that this book sparked conversations about various behaviors including how humans and dogs share many similarities when it comes to caring for each other.

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go to this link to get the book:

Building Character with Sam, Izzy, and Many Other Dogs: 15 Tips to Help Children Build Character.

OR go here:

https://www.amazon.com/Building-Character-Izzy-Many-Other/dp/1453835318/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1473833908&sr=8-1&keywords=building+character+with+sam+and+izzy